Dating For Real

Friendship

Dating. It’s fun. We can all agree, meeting the right person, listening, learning and opening up is a refreshing adventure. You meet new personalities, discover new viewpoints and understand new lifestyles.

Sometimes it leads to romance, others it leads to friendships or, at the least, an enjoyable evening. Dating can make you feel a plethora of emotions – from exhilarated to nervous and giddy.

The key to every relationship is friendship. If you understand how to be a friend, you understand how to build a romantic relationship also.

Who hasn’t enjoyed the trials of When Harry Met Sally? Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal have become the pop icons of the sexual strength between friendships. Clearly a friendship spanning years is an ideal connection most women want in a relationship.

Why, then, do we identify new relationships as “dating”? The word itself puts a huge weight on you and your partner. Avoid the nerves and anxieties that accompany dating by being a friend.

Friendships are empowering and long-lasting. There are no sexual expectations or obligations on either friend. It simply opens the lines of communication so you can get to know someone. It takes the pressure away and keeps you in charge.

When you develop a friendship, you also have control over sex. You need to feel comfortable talking about sex prior to diving in. Long-term relationships are founded on both love and lust.

Focus on his morals, outlook and attitude toward life. Does he care about you? Does he meet your 60/40 requirements?

To build a solid friendship, be a friend in return. Enjoy yourself and your life. Build a variety of friends and outlets that satisfy different needs. Accept the fact that no one person can be everything.

Be loyal and trustworthy. Offer a supporting hand when they need it. Friends remember this when you need the same in return. Give positive feedback and stay upbeat.

Take risks and reach out to others without being asked. Be kind and listen to what they have to say. Friends are there when someone needs cheering up. They also find joy in others’ success.

Before you rush into a premature romance or lose sight of your goals, be friends and develop truer, deeper connections with others. Take time and enjoy the journey.

Before you know it, you’ll reach your destination.

Be Bop!

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Words are an “Actor for Real’s” Greatest Tools

LANGUAGE IS POWERFUL.

I think it’s the responsibility of every person to try to fulfill himself or herself to the fullest capacity possible.

A person can not do this if they are “verbally naked.” A person must have an arsenal of vocabulary from which to work. While slang and lingo are appropriate in some circumstances, they will not put you in the same rapport in other circumstances.

We must be able to have flexibility in our vocabulary to meet our needs in a variety of situations.

Your character at a board meeting will not get you the same respect using slang, as it will when you are hangin’ with the homies.

If you are not comfortable speaking to executives, children, seniors - wherever you are deficient- model others who are and learn to emulate them. Expand your vocabulary and learn trade vernacular where needed.

“Our thinking has created problems which cannot be solved by that same level of thinking.” A. Einstein

Please learn the following and it will change your life-guaranteed.

Words Are an Actor for Real’s Greatest Tools

For me words have color, character; they have pouts, faces, manners, gesticulations. They have moods, humor, eccentricities; they have tints, tones, personalities.

Because people cannot see the color of words, the tint of words, the secret ghostly motions of words.

Because they cannot hear the whispering of words, the rustling of the procession of letters, the dream-flutes and dream-drums, which are thinly and weirdly played by words.

Because they cannot perceive the pouting of words, the raging of and racketing of words.

Because they are insensible to the phosphorescence of words, the fragrance of words, the tenderness or hardness; the dryness or juiciness of words.the interchange of values in gold, silver and the copper of words.

Is that any reason why we should not try to make them hear or to make them see or to make them feel?

LANGUAGE IS POWERFUL.

Words are the actor for real’s greatest tools.

Unfortunately, we’re seeing that more and more people are illiterate and we’re just not paying attention to how important it is to learn your language.

And our language, the English language, which we’re using right now, is a very subtle language and it’s a very powerful language and the more you learn your language the better you become to persuade and connect with people.

So you have to learn your language and I think it’s important to study the history of your language, study where words come from.

When you hear a word you don’t know try this.I write words down and when I hear a word I don’t know or a word I would like to learn or something new is coming up, then I go learn about it, study it, see where it came from and try to incorporate it into my vocabulary.

Fall in love with the dictionary -and that’s not so you can have a huge vocabulary that makes you sound important, it’s just so that you can think better and connect with other people better.

Be Bop!

Thom

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A Moms Work is Never Done

A Moms Work is Never Done

M Day is Here to Stay

Happy Mother’s Day to Moms all around the world. We should love, honor, and respect our Mothers every day of the year, of course, but this day is a chance to show Mom just how much she means to you.

And so to all of you - whether mom, grandma, stepmom, sister, aunt, neighbor, child-care provider, teacher,friend or significant other- a very special thank you for all you do to make the job of mother all the better

There isn’t anything more important in a mother’s life than her children, and to know that while they aren’t with you they are still being loved and cared for is a true gift.

Mother’s Day is a time of commemoration and celebration for Mom. It is a time of cards,hugs, kisses, breakfast in bed, family gatherings,Emails and fulfilling the honey do list.

Perhaps the country’s greatest proponent of motherhood, Anna Jarvis ironically never had children of her own. Yet that didn’t stop her from making the celebration of Mother’s Day her lifelong mission.

In fact, as the holiday took on a life of its own, Jarvis expressed frequent dismay over its growing commercialization. “I wanted it to be a day of sentiment, not profit” she is quoted as saying.

So lets give Mom what she needs not what we think she wants.

First start with LOVE.

Be Bop!

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