Similar to Fear, self-limiting beliefs are also created by your Inner Critic. This internal voice talks you out of going after things that you know you can do, you can have, and you deserve.
It is inspired by the voice of someone who may be close to you, but has told you that you can’t do something a family member, a friend, a colleague, or someone else close to you.
These are people who believe they are looking out for your best interests, and are keeping you from getting hurt.
But people like this, who are overly critical and believe they are helping you, are not aware of the psychological damage that is being done. "You can’t sing!" "Your brother is smarter than you." "You’ll never make it." "That kind of thing should be left to the professionals." "Giving up would be the practical thing to do."
These are examples of external garbage that creates your Inner Critic, making it the voice of opposition that prevents you from taking action. Once created, you feed it, by agreeing with it allowing it to stop you from moving forward.
Your Inner Critic exists, because your subconscious believes that it’s your protector for better or worse. Throughout your life you’ve programmed your Inner Critic through your beliefs, environment, upbringing, and social circumstances, to resist significant changes.
Therefore when confronted with any kind of change, it believes it is protecting your vested interests and keeping you from getting hurt (kind of like mom). It truly thinks that it is right and is looking out for your best interests.
When you start to make changes in your life and your Critic questions your actions, what should you do? Most people think they have only two choices: fight it, or let it stop them from moving forward. Here’s a better way to win.
When you are alone, in communion with yourself, preparing to make dramatic changes in your life and your Critic begins to shut you down, ask it to cut you some slack. Instead of fighting it and defending yourself against it, befriend your Inner Critic.
Tell it that you know it is looking out for you and trying to protect you against pain, but to please let you move forward this time. Tell it: this is a change that needs to be made an action that needs to be taken to reach your goals.
Negotiate with the inner voice that is keeping you from taking the risk to go after what you desire in life. Ask it for some cooperation. For instance, an actor will find lures to trick his Inner Critic and stimulate his imagination.
His creative imagination will then turn the changes he’s making into a fun game resulting in positive outcomes. You can do the same! How!..?
Most people, unfortunately, follow their first instinct - which is, to kill the voice. Wow let’s find a kinder, gentler way of winning! Besides, it takes far too much time to fight your Critic, who is well armed with all the latest weapons from a lifetime of reasons NOT to change.
You cannot ignore something that is much bigger than your subconscious. Trying to silence your Inner Critic only shuts you down and paralyzes you. And when that happens, you will be unable to move forward. It’s like walking in cement the longer you pause the harder it is to get moving again.
In a state of paralysis, your Critic will easily overpower you and all of the positive steps you have taken will be undone. You will soon believe that it is impossible to reach your dreams and will give in and stop.
Keep moving! You may fall down, but at least you will be moving forward. You must get up again. Don’t get stuck in the cement!
Like fear, the Inner Critic is a powerful force that when harnessed with “The Law of ACTION” a positive attitude will inspire you to get up, dust yourself off, and keep moving forward. Just remember you deserve success.
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